Why She Fakes It

You think she’s happy. She sounds pleased. She’s making all the right noises.She’s moaning and breathing heavily. She came…you think. Or did she? She could very well be fakingit. To men who are able to come quickly and easily with a few thrusts, faking it seemsalien. Why pretend? Why not just come? Well, it’s not always that easy. The reasonswomen fake it are often as varied as women themselves. She wants to stroke his egoA lot of women simply don’t want to hear a man ask them why they didn’t come.The reality is, for many, it’s not that easy to orgasm, and they don’t need toevery time. This isn’t to say a woman isn’t enjoying sex. An orgasmisn’t a requisite for enjoyment. Sometimes she needs a mind-blowing orgasm, andother times, she just wants to be intimate. So rather than have a man keep pounding at heruntil she’s chafing, it’s just easier to pretend. She is too inhibited and fears losing controlIf she’s the type that has the perfect hair, the perfect job and the perfectwardrobe, she may well be afraid of losing control by allowing herself to orgasm. Dr. AvaCadell, sex therapist and author of the upcoming book Sexy Little Book of OralPleasure, says, “A lot of women don’t want to be seen as out of controlbecause they think they’ll look ugly or weak or vulnerable.” A woman who isafraid of looking messy, of squirting, having you see her “O” face, lookingfat, or otherwise doing something “embarrassing” may be unable to let goenough to let herself climax. Fear of pregnancy/STDsIf she's terrified of pregnancy or is simply worried about contracting a disease, she could beunable to focus on the task at hand during sex. A woman in this situation is going to needtime and a very safe environment if she’s going to feel relaxed enough to allowherself to let go and enjoy sex without fear. And, of course, make sure you always wrap itup! If she knows you take your sexual health seriously, she’ll feel morecomfortable.She doesn’t know how to get offUnlike men who have easy access to their penis, women aresometimes equally as dperplexed as men when it comes to the female body. Men grow up masturbating at ayoung age. But many women don’t learn about masturbation until well into their 20s,and even then it’s a complicated situation. Between the G-spot, theclitoris, vibrators, fingers, and everything else that’s going on, women oftendon’t even know how to make themselves reach orgasm, much less tell someone else howto do it. There are more reasons why she fakes it after the jump...

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