Thereyou are lying in bed. And there she is lying next to you. You just finished having sexwith a girl you’ve been dating (or you’ve just met), and your mind is fillingwith these questions: Did she come? Did she enjoy it? Was I good? Did I holdout long enough? Does she want to do this again? Does she expect me to cuddle her? Should Iget up? Should I go to the bathroom? Should I leave? Or, if she's atyour place, does she want to leave?When you first start having sex with a newwoman, you really want to avoid awkward moments after sex because, well, it's awkward.There's no ifs, ands or buts about it. You just don't know this person very well. Maybeyou’ve known her for a day, a week or a month.How well do you know her?But time doesn't make any difference because when you start having sex with somebody,it's going to be awkward. You don't even know each other. Even if you’re experiencedwith other people, you don't really know what to do, you don't know what she likes and youcertainly don't know if she was satisfied. You can’t pick up on all the intimatesignals yet. Now, the worst thing to do after sex is to look at a woman whenit’s over and ask, “Did you come?” That makes her feel like you're notin tune with her at all, and she wants to be in tune with you not only sexually but alsoemotionally and mentally. Another don't is to apologize for your performance. I knowa lot of guys will do that. When you apologize, all it does is show her that you're goingahead and assuming that your performance was bad and that she was not satisfied. And itwill also tell her that you're not very confident sexually. Avoid those awkward momentsFirst off, figure out ahead of time what this woman means to you. If it's the first timeyou're having sex with someone who you actually like and may want to be in a relationshipwith, you need to relax and realize that no matter what it's like the first time, it'sonly going to get better from there on out. This is because sex only gets better withtime, experience and knowledge of your partner. Also realize that if this is a woman youlike and you think you're headed in the direction of a relationship, you must have an openline of communication about sex, and not just right after that one session. Youcan do it on the next date -- even the next day. Turn to her and say, “Last nightwas great with you. Is there anything that you'd like me to do? What do you really like?What do you really enjoy?” Don't bring it up directly after sex,because her head will be spinning with thoughts just like yours. But do it the very nextday so you both have some time to process and learn more about each other. And it may takesome time depending on how open she is. But if you lead and you are open, she will say:“Last night was great the way you moved,” or “Last night was great theway you went down on me. Can you do that again?” The point is for you tostart to open lines of communication so that you can really learn from her sexually andshow her you are not ashamed of having sex with her. This is how you'll avoid thoseawkward moments after sex. Communication is the absolute key to a good sex life. More on how to avoid awkward moments after sex next...
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